– At least none which makes sense –
Well probably there is but in my eyes it doesn’t make sense at all⚡️
It is actually quite straightforward.
We are not living in a vacuum but are influenced by the people 👩👩👧👦 around us. The way we behave in a specific situation highly depends on the reaction of the other persons involved. Equally if we behave suddenly differently in a similar situation, other people will start to change their behavior as well. A new equilibrium is established (which possibly tiggers further changes).
This awareness that we are all part of many different systems – a team, a company, the family, friends – which influence us is the key assumption of a systemic coach. Therefore a coach will always help the coachee to discover every possible (external) impact for the topic the client wants to work on.
Only then the change can succeed.
Only then the change will be lasting.
👉🏻 The conclusion is that there is no businesscoaching without lifecoaching. Or the other way around: if the business coaching shall be successful coach and coachee must look at the private life as well.
👉🏻 The second conclusion is that the only expert for the chosen topic is the coachee, only he knows all the different systems well enough. Any solution the coach could offer, never will be correct for the client since it would be a solution for another system.
A great coach has therefore the skill to accept the different reality of the coachee without any judgment. He is able to dive into the world of the client, to forget his own experience in life and see through the eyes of the coachee. From there the coach develops various hypotheses, tests the reaction and adapts. That way he helps the coachee to develop his own new ideas for a solution.
The change begins.
Which situations did you experience where your Change in behavior triggered a different behavior of somebody else? Which new possibilities opened up?